The woman writes in a viral Reddit post that she has since asked her friend to consider other names
- A woman on Reddit is seeking advice after her friend wanted to use the baby name she had initially considered before suffering a miscarriage
- OP shared her list of baby names with her friend when the friend found out she was pregnant, including the name “Sunday,” or “Sunny” for short
- OP later clarified she intended to use the name before suffering the miscarriage, and now her friend is set on using the name
A woman who had a miscarriage says her best friend is now pregnant — and wants to use the same name she had planned to use before losing her baby.
In a post shared to Reddit, the woman writes: “My best friend (29) recently fell pregnant after 3 years of trying. The day she found out I (32) raced over to her house and cried and celebrated with her.”
“We went into her spare room and spoke about decorating the baby’s room and baby names,” she writes. “I read from my list of baby names I have literally had for yeaaaars, like 4+ years. I noted one of my favorite names, Sunday or Sunny for short, and told her she needs to start a baby name list now too. Three weeks later I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant myself and we were overjoyed at the possibility of going through this together.”
But four weeks later, the woman suffered a miscarriage.
“The weekend after I found out there was no fetal heart rate we were talking about baby names again,” she continues.
That’s when her friend mentioned that she was thinking about naming the child Sunday — or Sunny for short.
“I told her that the idea from the name came from my list, it was our top name. It went in one ear and out the other and she continued to talk about the name, sharing it with others that evening,” she writes in the post. “The next day I sent her a text asking her to consider other names, even other names that had the nickname Sunny… She was clearly frustrated but did say she didn’t want me to feel like that so would think of more names.”
Two weeks later, she said she was contemplating “Sunnie,” instead of Sunny.
“She continued the conversation saying that it is extremely hard for both of us and I again asked to table the conversation for another time. She is due in October so there is plenty of time, in my mind. She told me I was projecting onto her and I again asked to hold off on the conversation,” she writes. “She responded that as her best friend I should be supportive of what she wants to call her baby.”
Now, the two are involved in a back and a forth and the woman writes that she’s not sure what to do next.
“Where do we go from here?” she writes.
Reddit users are arguing that no one can “own a name,” and chiding the woman for telling her friend the name she planned in the first place.
Wrote one: “Never disclose your names. Just find another you love as much and move on.”
