“I mentioned about possibly being pregnant to the bride and she told me to wait until after the wedding… towards the end of the year…,” the bridesmaid said
A bridesmaid is hoping to start her family soon, but her friend and future bride is telling her to hold off.
The 32-year-old bridesmaid shared in a post on Reddit’s popular “Bridezillas” forum that she and her husband started talking about starting a family soon — a subject her husband had brought up because her “clock is ticking” — but her friend immediately shut the idea down.
“I mentioned about possibly being pregnant to the bride and she told me to wait until after the wedding, which is towards the end of the year in true ‘you better not’ fashion,” she recalled.
“I get she doesn’t want me to look huge in photos, but this trend of not allowing people to become pregnant is so self-centered and seems like a common desire for today’s brides,” she added.
The Redditor noted that since she wasn’t friends with the other bridesmaids, she wasn’t able to ask them for input on this and felt like she “can’t.” She then posed the question to others in the forum, asking, “I just want to know opinions on this and if anyone has had a similar experience?”
Several people commented that they thought the bride was being a “bridezilla” for suggesting that the bridesmaid not get pregnant during her wedding.
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One person wrote: “She gave you an ultimatum. Try for a baby or be in her wedding. She’s putting the ‘zilla’ in Bridezilla in letters you can see from space.”
Another agreed the bride was being unfair, saying, “Anyone who tells you to put your future on hold for the aesthetics of their wedding isn’t a friend.”
They suggested that she consider dropping out of the wedding, saying, “You’re not comfortable waiting, and since she’s not comfortable with you trying, it’s probably for the best that you bow out now.”
“If you want to have a baby, then do it when YOU WANT,” one person chimed in. “Why does your friend even need to know or care?” Someone else noted something similar: “Your getting pregnant is a matter between you and your husband. The bride-to-be does not get a veto and does not get a vote.”
Another commenter suggested that the bridesmaid also do what she wants to do, saying, “Life for others doesn’t stop, just because someone gets married.”
